many times do we discover that we have done things that have hurt
others? Thing that were not intentional that hurt those we care about so
deeply? I know I have. Sometimes in an attempt to lessen a friend's
pain and ease a breaking heart, we try to fix things that can't be
fixed. The best we can do is just be there and listen.
been studying Job's friends in Wednesday night Bible Study. They thought
that were helping Job with their "advice", but they were only hurting
with their words and accusations. They really didn't understand the
"larger" picture, and neither do we.
So if we have hurt another, I can say and you can say...
"Please forgive me, friend, if I make mistakes that hurt you. I don't
do them on purpose. I try to be the best friend that I can be, but I
often fail in my attempt. My heart hurts for you, but so many times it
tries to fix things that it should never attempt to fix. The best I can
do for you is pray for you and ask the Holy Spirit to make me sensitive
to your needs, and keep me from making mistakes or saying things that
C. H. Spurgeon once wrote, “Friendship is one of the
sweetest joys of life. Many might have failed beneath the bitterness of
their trial had they not found a friend." This is the kind of friend I
wish to be.... one who knows he can't solve the problem, but one who
realizes that in listening to my friend's heart, I have given the very
best I can give.