Do not judge, and you will not be judged; do not condemn, and you will not be condemned.
Forgive, and you will be forgiven. — (Luke
6:37, NIV).
What is the best gift you can give? It
isn't something that you can touch or feel. It isn't something that will one
day get lost or damaged. It is real and changes hearts. This is the gift of
forgiveness. God's unconditional love always inspires forgiveness. Forgiveness
is free and keeps no record of wrong that has been done. It lets go of hurt and
releases the one who caused the pain from any debt. It does not judge or condemn.
Have you discovered it is difficult to forgive yourself? When
you repent, the Lord forgives you. He remembers your sin no more. But you, on
the other hand, can dwell on that sin until you can’t forgive yourself for what
God has forgiven. It can sit in the back of your mind and grow large and
overwhelming. It can destroy your assurance of God's grace, and make you
question if He has truly forgiven you. You have trouble believing that He is a
“God, ready to forgive, gracious and merciful” (Nehemiah 9:17, NIV). You can’t
grasp that He has forgiven you completely, and your debt is gone.
How can you forgive yourself? This is hard, and and there are no easy answers. What I share comes from my own experience in my walk with
Christ. Perhaps you believe you have forgiven someone for
a betrayal, or
something they did that was dishonest. Perhaps you believe you have forgiven
them for rejecting your love or neglecting your trust. But if you have forgiven
them for what they have done, why can't you accept God's forgiveness for your own betrayal, or your
own action that was less than completely honest, or that time you rejected love
and neglected a trust? His love forgives when you repent. Perhaps the inability to forgive lies in
the fact that there are underlying unresolved feelings from things that have
been done to you. Even though you have reached out and made amends and also
been forgiven by others, maybe you still feel guilty and unworthy of
forgiveness. Although you believe you have forgiven others for what they have
done to you, your inability to forgive yourself might reveal something you haven't even realized—an
inability to really forgive those who have hurt you. When you can reach the
place where you truly forgive others, then
you will also have the power to forgive yourself.
Jesus has told us to forgive, and that we will be forgiven. Forgiveness is
an act of will. Forgiveness begins with a decision to forgive. Decide to
forgive others, and decide to forgive yourself. When you open your mind and
heart to the Holy Spirit, He begins a work of healing of unresolved feeling in
His time and in His perfect way. Choose to forgive what has been done to you, and choose to not hold anything against anyone
who has hurt you. Ask God to help you deal with all feelings that are involved.
Choose to forgive yourself, and let go of any anger you harbor. Allow God to
open you to what you need to face so that any emotional pain can be healed. He
will help you move forward in His complete love and forgiveness, and He will
deal with the past hurt and pain. He promises to take to the grave all the pain
and hurt and bitterness and anger and rejection and neglect that you have
experienced, and to raise you with Him in newness of life.
Today is a beginning.
© 2017 Lynn
Lacher
www.lynnlacher.com
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