Do not judge, and you will not be judged; do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven. — (Luke 6:37, NIV).
What is the best gift you can give? It isn't something that you can touch or feel. It isn't something that will one day get lost or damaged. It is real and changes hearts. This is the gift of forgiveness. God's unconditional love always inspires forgiveness. Forgiveness is free and keeps no record of wrong that has been done. It lets go of hurt and releases the one who caused the pain from any debt. It does not judge or condemn.
Have you discovered it is difficult to forgive yourself? When you repent, the Lord forgives you. He remembers your sin no more. But you, on the other hand, can dwell on that sin until you can’t forgive yourself for what God has forgiven. It can sit in the back of your mind and grow large and overwhelming. It can destroy your assurance of God's grace, and make you question if He has truly forgiven you. You have trouble believing that He is a “God, ready to forgive, gracious and merciful” (Nehemiah 9:17, NIV). You can’t grasp that He has forgiven you completely, and your debt is gone.
How can you forgive yourself? This is hard, and and there are no easy answers. What I share comes from my own experience in my walk with Christ. Perhaps you believe you have forgiven someone for a betrayal, or something they did that was dishonest. Perhaps you believe you have forgiven them for rejecting your love or neglecting your trust. But if you have forgiven them for what they have done, why can't you accept God's forgiveness for your own betrayal, or your own action that was less than completely honest, or that time you rejected love and neglected a trust? His love forgives when you repent. Perhaps the inability to forgive lies in the fact that there are underlying unresolved feelings from things that have been done to you. Even though you have reached out and made amends and also been forgiven by others, maybe you still feel guilty and unworthy of forgiveness. Although you believe you have forgiven others for what they have done to you, your inability to forgive yourself might reveal something you haven't even realized—an inability to really forgive those who have hurt you. When you can reach the place where you truly forgive others, then you will also have the power to forgive yourself.
Jesus has told us to forgive, and that we will be forgiven. Forgiveness is an act of will. Forgiveness begins with a decision to forgive. Decide to forgive others, and decide to forgive yourself. When you open your mind and heart to the Holy Spirit, He begins a work of healing of unresolved feeling in His time and in His perfect way. Choose to forgive what has been done to you, and choose to not hold anything against anyone who has hurt you. Ask God to help you deal with all feelings that are involved. Choose to forgive yourself, and let go of any anger you harbor. Allow God to open you to what you need to face so that any emotional pain can be healed. He will help you move forward in His complete love and forgiveness, and He will deal with the past hurt and pain. He promises to take to the grave all the pain and hurt and bitterness and anger and rejection and neglect that you have experienced, and to raise you with Him in newness of life.
Today is a beginning.
© 2017 Lynn Lacher