Be happy with those who are happy, and weep with those who weep.
—Romans 12:15 NLT
Rejoice with one who is happy, Paul writes, and weep with one who is hurting. To share in someone’s pain or happiness is a gift from God. When you are there for someone else, you encourage them. Whether helping carry their load or sharing in their blessing, you become part of them. To share in their pain not only reassures them but also builds strength and insight for your life. When you rejoice with those who are happy, their happiness becomes yours. Sharing in both the happiness and pain of someone else gives you an overflowing appreciation for the amazing goodness of God’s grace.
Be free of judgment for the person God sends you. When they are in pain, listen to their heart. Don’t be planning what to say while they are talking. Allow the Holy Spirit to guide you. Have no agenda or point to make. If He instructs you, speak His wisdom with encouragement. His wisdom, even when it is sometimes tough, can be received when it is spoken without expectation in love. Always use yourself as an example. Be honest. Admit your own issues. Continually impart His hope, and speak His peace. Pain that is experienced today most often becomes part of the joy of tomorrow—for not only the one who needs you but for you.
When you share in someone’s happiness, you are free of jealousy—of your own need. Selfishness within you dies and generosity pours. There is no comparison—no competition. You rejoice because Jesus rejoices.
Sharing with someone in either happiness or pain is never about you. It is about the love of Jesus given without hesitation—His love which did not judge—only freely poured for you. Give as He gave His life for you, and you will receive—pressed down and running over. Free of self, you flow without limitation in Him.
© 2019 Lynn Lacher