When you are devastated by someone's action you have a choice what to do with the hurt and pain that arises. If you allow that hurt to define who you are that pain immobilizes you. You find yourself in bondage to your bitterness and hate. It directs your life and consumes your waking and sleeping moments. Jesus wants you free of its control. The Holy Spirit invites you to forgive so that you might be free from its bondage. “Where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom,” Paul writes (2 Corinthians 3:17). God does not want you in bondage to your emotional pain. You have the freedom and the power to forgive. When you choose to forgive you surrender what you believe you have a right to own. His power will enable your choice and transform your heart. “I will give you a new heart,” the Lord promises, “and I will put a new spirit in you. I will take out your stony, stubborn heart and give you a tender, responsive heart” (Ezekiel 36:26, NLT).